No Limits: A New Life Principle for Growth and Inspiration

There are no limits on me.

This is one of my new principles for life.

You know, the phrases and mantras you set to help you make decisions and navigate your way of living. The ones that keep you going when things feel tough. When you don’t know what you do.

And I came across this at a swimming lesson.

I was sick as a child, and that made me allergic to the water in British swimming pools. They overloaded the chlorine so much that even walking past a swimming pool building made me feel nauseated. And when the door opened for someone to go in—BAM! It felt like being hit with a wall of chlorine.

So I never learnt to swim.

Now I’m 30, I’m getting lessons (and very happy to say the Australian pools use less chlorine, and my skin is better so it doesn’t react so much).

Why does this relate to my new principle for life?

Well, in the few minutes at the end of the lesson, I had a quick chat with the other lady having lessons that day. She seemed to be doing so well to me, and I asked about the sports watch she was wearing. Turns out, though she was fairly new to swimming, she’d decided she was going to go all out and train to complete a triathlon.

I was amazed!

‘So you can already run and cycle?’

‘Not yet. But I’m also trying that.’

This year she had just decided she was going to start her fitness journey, learn to swim, and why not while she was at it give herself a big goal to motivate her?

A triathlon.

‘I just realised there are no limits on me, so why not do it? I can do whatever I want to try, really. If I’m going to learn how to swim, why not try for a triathlon?’

🤯

Why indeed.

A momentary meeting with a soulmate.

(The real kind, not the Hallmark movie romantic kind, but the people we meet every day—even just fleetingly—who provide sparks of ‘Oh, I was meant to meet you.’)

Because it’s true.

There are no limits on us. Save the ones we put on ourselves.

Sometimes we end up in environments that hold us down. Sometimes monetary situations, people, roles. But that’s not forever. It’s a period. And though no one ever knows how long that period might be, thinking about your limits and where you want to go can help you through whatever you’re struggling with.

So you can’t swim—YET. Who says you can’t learn and complete a triathlon? You may as well go all out if you’re learning. (If you want, you might not want to, and that’s okay.)

You might want to start writing. Why put a limit on it? One book? Rather, just say you want to write as much as you can. No limits. You might end up writing several.

Now, it’s that time of year we all reflect on how our year has been so far, or our whole life, and think about goals for next year. I started doing this a little, but found no specific goals came to mind.

Of course I want to keep drafting and publishing as many books as I can. Of course I want to continue in my goals towards financial freedom. Of course I want to keep growing towards a life of good health and vitality and fitness. Of course I want to continue growing as a good parent.

But nothing really sat with me as ‘I WANT TO DO X’.

And I realised it was because I was still reflecting on this limits thing.

There are no limits on me.

I can do whatever I want (really, within reason, of course).

I don’t know what this year will bring, but I know I’ll keep working towards all of my goals. But a lot can happen in a year, and for that reason, instead, I’ve decided to take things as they come, and look forward to exponential growth.

1 thing a day towards my goals is 365 things done in a year. That’s a lot.

Focusing on small daily habits helps you grow as a person incredibly. Exponentially. How can you plan for that? Except to take it day by day and enjoy it.

Perhaps now is the time we don’t think of goals, but instead think about the consistency we want to bring to 2025.

What are our life values?

Family? Fitness? Writing? Creativity? Learning? Language? Communication? The list goes on, but pick three.

Now look in your daily schedule and plan in even just 15 mins a day of each of those. Calendar it in. Make it a date for yourself. A must do. As much as possible.

From there, I like to track each day whether I do it. I love watching the little xs line up as I cross it off as complete each day.

Do I get around to doing it each and every day?

No. Life happens.

But I love watching it grow as much as it can. 4x a week. 5x a week. Sometimes 6x a week!

More than if I never put it in my calendar and hoped I remembered.

There are no limits on me. And that’s exciting. And it makes me want to do as much as I can towards my goals and dreams, because I’m so curious where it will end up.

Look again in 6 months.

1 year.

2 years.

Imagine where it can be in 5 years if you do a little bit every day.

The world will try to impose limits on you. But what if you chose to see those limits as temporary, and your potential as boundless?

Start small. Stay curious. And watch where you end up—because with no limits, the possibilities are endless. And the future is so exciting.

(And I WILL complete more book drafting this year! For those who are waiting for Dynasty Codes 3: Noble Blood and the next Haru & Yuka adventure, thank you so much for your patience! 🙏)

How about you? What are your values for 2025? What daily habits will help you bring them to life? Got any exciting creative projects in the works or that you’d like to begin?

Finding Freedom in the Little Things: A Writer's Reflection

A thought today: What does freedom mean to you in your everyday choices?

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on freedom as I’ve realised it’s one of my core values.

• Freedom to choose who I am.

• Freedom to decide how I spend my time.

• Freedom to set my own life goals.

• Freedom even to shape my career.

• Freedom to write.

This is a big one!

Not everyone has these freedoms, and I am deeply grateful to live a life where these choices are available to me.

I know many people don't have a supportive writing community or even the encouragement of their loved ones. Some write in secret, too nervous or afraid to share their dreams. For years, online communities have become sanctuaries for writers who feel isolated in their dreams.

But when you start to view freedom this way, it becomes clear that it isn’t always about big, life-changing decisions. Often, freedom is found in the small, everyday choices we make.

• The freedom to decide what’s for dinner.

• The freedom to choose when to go to bed.

• When to wake up and write.

• Or even when to write before heading off to bed!

• The freedom to even gain the education and tools needed to write.

When I think about it this way, I feel so fortunate.

These little moments might seem insignificant, but they’re meaningful.

And they add up.

I used to think freedom was this grand, sweeping concept—doing whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, without having to answer to anyone else. (Typical childhood thoughts, right?) But as I’ve grown up, I’ve realised how unrealistic (and overwhelming) that notion is.

True freedom, I think, lies in recognising and appreciating the small choices that shape our days.

So, I’ll ask again:

What does freedom mean to you in your everyday life?

As we near the end of the year, let’s remember to take care of ourselves, cherish our routines, and celebrate the freedoms we have, however small they may seem.

#LifeReflections #EverydayChoices #MindfulLiving #WritingCommunity #Gratitude

Writing at 'Stupid O'clock': What Author Life Taught Me About Resilience and Priorities

Author life has taught me a lot about fitting my creative dreams around a busy day job and family life 👇🏽

Juggling creative dreams around a job and family life is hard. We all know it. And I often feel like there’s never enough time, to the point I envy Stephenie Meyer's vampires and their lack of need for sleep. 😅 But honestly, these years of writing around life’s demands have taught me some invaluable lessons, and I often get asked how I fit everything in.

So here's a quick run down of how I handle writing books around job and baby and exercise and ... [the list of need-to-dos goes on and on ...]

✨ Building resilience – There are days when the words just won’t come, or life gets in the way. But showing up anyway—even for a tiny step forward—has been my mantra. Each morning when my 'stupid o'clock' (according to my dad) alarm goes off, and it's cold and dark and I want to roll over, I tell myself 'this is my origin story' and I get up and run through my morning routine. Even if it's condensed. Even if it's just 10 minutes.

✨ Determination and saying 'no' – Carving out time for your dreams isn’t easy, but it’s worth it. I’ve learned to fight for what lights me up, even when it means saying 'no' to other things. And saying 'no' to other things is hard. It's not expected in this society. So that's a big lesson: think about what you're going to say 'no' to when you have something more important you want to do. Is it no TV? No alcohol? No weekend layins? You've got to be strict with yourself and prioritise.

✨ Matching my life to my values – Writing isn’t just something I do; it’s part of who I am. I feel odd on the days I can't do it. Aligning my daily choices with that has brought so much clarity and peace. It took YEARS to do. YEARS to action. YEARS to allow myself that. So what are your values?

Try this: If you need to google a giant list of values, write all the ones that resonate, and then trim them down to your top 5 values (this is what I did), then I recommend this. It gave a whole new perspective to my lifestyle.

✨ Scheduling personal priorities – I’ve made writing time as non-negotiable as work meetings or daycare pickups. It’s not always perfect, or 'enough' time, but it’s mine. What you put in your calendar is what you prioritise, so get it in there. Even if it's only 10 mins a day. You know what they say: 'Show me your calendar, and I'll show you what's important to you.' So I HAD to get creative work and exercise on my calendar.

✨ Waking up early – Early mornings have become my creative sanctuary. There’s something magical about working while the world sleeps (and, importantly, my son, because I'm sure all parents know no work gets done with a toddler climbing all over you!) and letting the words flow. Now, I know some people are night owls VS morning larks like me. That's okay. It took waking up at 'stupid o'clock' for me, but your creative time might be late. Find your creative time, and use it.

✨ Working little by little – Dreams aren’t built in one day. I’ve learned to celebrate the small wins—500 words here, an edited chapter there—because they all add up. I still have moments when I mourn long, beautiful writing time with lots of words. Still feel like a failure when I can only have ten minutes. But then I check myself, and remind myself that at least I'm still plodding forward. And over a year, that's still a lot of progress.

I'll throw in the old '0.1% progress every day' nudge here.

This life has its challenges, but it’s taught me that progress, not perfection, is the goal. It takes a while to learn. I still catch myself in the perfectionist mindset. But writing isn’t always glamorous—it’s messy and raw and sometimes exhausting—but it’s also deeply fulfilling.

And it'll be the same for whatever creative lifestyle you're seeking.

If you’re chasing your creative dreams, I hope you’ll give yourself grace. Work on them bit by bit, show up even when it’s hard, and keep your why close. It'll help you through the tough times.

So, take a moment today to reflect on your creative dreams. What small step can you take right now to move closer to them? I like to remind myself 'Just one thing a day'. What one thing can you do each day to shuffle towards your goals?

Remember: even the tiniest effort counts.

How about you? How do you balance your creative pursuits with the rest of life?

#AuthorLife #Creativity #DreamsAndGoals #Resilience #Determination